Ignorance is Bliss, or Not?!?🤔

Ignorance is Bliss? Really?!?!

“Ignorance is Bliss”

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Is ignorance truly bliss or is truth the only way to freedom from pain?

I will explore the truth between these two contradicting ideas that have split human nature into half whether among members in society or within our own minds. Throughout our entire lives we have been told both. So which side do we take? Is there a way to incorporate both into our daily lives when we are faced with our relationships with friends, family, religion, faith, and most importantly ourselves? I will examine these two ideas by exploring our rational thought, human nature, history, religion, definitions of normal versus insanity, and our natural urge to seek happiness.     Isn’t rational thought truth? Or could it be as long as we are not lying to ourselves about the things we are rationalizing. I think sometimes we use rationalization as a tool to help us lie to ourselves, to trick ourselves into believing that it is the truth. So…Could we be safe to only use rational thought when we have the facts that we can use to proof our rational perceptions.

The bible says you are supposed to tell the truth and that honesty is a virtue along with “truth sets you free”. So when did lying begin to feel like the more right and safer way to go? We all reach that one moment from time to time in life when you have to think…Should I tell the truth or lie? The way we all decide is we weigh out the outcome of each side to keep us protected and make us feel better about ourselves. We pick the easy way out. We pick the side that will cause the least confrontation, the least amount of consequences. This is not how we were raised. We were raised to always tell the truth, to never lie. I was always told that once you tell one lie, you have to tell more and more to keep that lie from being discovered. Isn’t lying taking the coward’s way out? If fear is negative and that is the driving force to help us to lie than isn’t lying wrong, even if you feel like you are protecting that person? You are actually crippling the same person you think you are trying to protect. Do we lie to those who think that is what they want to hear because we too don’t want to feel pain from the consequences of telling the truth to we know would rather remain ignorant to the facts to keep their bliss from fleeting for a brief time. Honesty to me still remains the better route because the anger they may feel or pain to encounter from knowing the truth is their struggle. Those are issues for that person to resolve. So in a way you are helping them. It is their choice on ways of processing and moving forward. This is comparable to a person who has a friend with drug addiction or making choices you and they know are bad for them. True friends in these cases are going to tell you the truth – the things “you don’t want to hear” because then it makes the problems real and the person who needs change can no longer be content with living a life of ignorant bliss. We as humans don’t want to be the ones who cause pain to others by telling the truth. We too would rather avoid the stress and commitment we bring on ourselves when we tell a loved one something they don’t want to hear. Why do you think there are so many enablers in the world. Like being a kid, blanket over our head does not make things go away. Only dealing with the truth will ultimately set you free. It is only natural for us to feel the emotions we feel. It is what we as human beings are made of. By not being honest to others no matter what it might do to them is still causing them to have a misconception of you and the world around them. It only fuels all the misinterpretations people have of anything and everything. It causes people’s to not see and experience the true reality of the world because they are basing their understandings of their existence based on their experiences. So if we are all lying to each other then we slowly all begin to loose what the truth truly is.

I am always honest and strive and push people to tell me the truth. I don’t care if the truth will kill me because I know it can’t. For me only the truth can set me free. It’s not knowing the truth that keeps me in the limbo of agony. It becomes an overwhelming and painful puzzle of not knowing that drives my obsessions, fear, and doubt. I cannot move on until I make since of whatever has caused me to feel the uneasiness of not knowing the truth of my experience no matter what it may be. A romantic relationship, a fight with a friend or family member, or behaviors of individuals, or basic emotions that I feel. I feel an overwhelming since of doubt, betrayal, misunderstanding, or a misconception, which leads me to pine over these things until I have solved it. In my mind, it is a puzzle. If I know the truth, only then I can accept the fact because I will know why, how, and what I need to do or feel to solve my questions.
I will know why this person did this, how it happened, what went wrong and again how or what I need to move on. Yes, sometimes it is painful and sad, but at least you are not burdened with the never knowing what happened. You have no more assumptions or blame you have put upon yourself. The truth no matter how painful it may be at least allows me relief from the not knowing. Yes, the pain will be there for who knows how long, but it is a lot better than the constant obsession of never knowing. For example, parents whom have lost a child ten years ago. It is the never knowing that hovers over them like a dark, heavy. enveloping sheet of darkness. They would much rather know what happened to her regardless if she is alive or not, just so they don’t have to keep questioning “what happened.” The truth sometimes can be a since of closure as well as enlightenment. If I know the truth then I can accept the fact, process the pain, and then move on because only then is when I can understand the situation in its truest nature. The truth can hurt but it is only because it is proof of our misconceptions which were created because of someone who was not truthful to you or to themselves. Avoiding the truth to yourself causes others’ pain. You spread your fear to others unknowingness which in turns causes their confusion and misconceptions. So if everyone was truthful then there would be no misconceptions. The truth is the cure for misconceptions. You take away the truth and misconceptions and manipulation will spread.  Fear, negativity, and lying all become a big vicious circle that we are constantly trying to maintain.

I am always honest and strive and push people to tell me the truth. I don’t care if the truth will kill me because I know it can’t. For me only the truth can set me free. It’s not knowing the truth that keeps me in the limbo of agony. It becomes an overwhelming and painful puzzle of not knowing that drives my obsessions, fear, and doubt. I cannot move on until I make since of whatever has caused me to feel the uneasiness of not knowing the truth of my experience no matter what it may be. A romantic relationship, a fight with a friend or family member, or behaviors of individuals, or basic emotions that I feel. I feel an overwhelming since of doubt, betrayal, misunderstanding, or a misconception, which leads me to pine over these things until I have solved it. In my mind, it is a puzzle. If I know the truth, only then I can accept the fact because I will know why, how, and what I need to do or feel to solve my questions.
I will know why this person did this, how it happened, what went wrong and again how or what I need to move on. Yes, sometimes it is painful and sad, but at least you are not burdened with the never knowing what happened. You have no more assumptions or blame you have put upon yourself. The truth no matter how painful it may be at least allows me relief from the not knowing. Yes, the pain will be there for who knows how long, but it is a lot better than the constant obsession of never knowing. For example, parents whom have lost a child ten years ago. It is the never knowing that hovers over them like a dark, heavy. enveloping sheet of darkness. They would much rather know what happened to her regardless if she is alive or not, just so they don’t have to keep questioning “what happened.” The truth sometimes can be a since of closure as well as enlightenment. If I know the truth then I can accept the fact, process the pain, and then move on because only then is when I can understand the situation in its truest nature. The truth can hurt but it is only because it is proof of our misconceptions which were created because of someone who was not truthful to you or to themselves. Avoiding the truth to yourself causes others’ pain. You spread your fear to others unknowingness which in turns causes their confusion and misconceptions. So if everyone was truthful then there would be no misconceptions. The truth is the cure for misconceptions. You take away the truth and misconceptions and manipulation will spread.  Fear, negativity, and lying all become a big vicious circle that we are constantly trying to maintain.

Who do we lie to? Why do we lie?   

We lie to strangers, friends, enemies, family, bosses, co-workers, and mostly to ourselves. We lie for survival. We lie because we are selfish. We lie because we are afraid. We are afraid of judgment. We are afraid of consequences. And we are afraid of not being accepted by others. We lie to ourselves to avoid blaming ourselves for our own mistakes we have made. We lie to ourselves in order to hide from the truth because sometimes the truth can destroy everything you have and thought you were.
When we do this we are becoming something we are not, which can cause you to live a life of misery, stagnation, and ignorance. This is nothing but fear of acceptance; however, truth inspires or forces us to change. Christians say that God embraces us to change and not find comfort with life just because it is predictable and safe. If we embrace change then we learn more about ourselves through doing things we never thought we could do or experience something we never thought we would. It causes us to have our own life adventures, which is what living is all about. We lie to our loved ones for this same reason. Is this why it’s so hard for a parent to tell their child that they are adopted or tell your spouse that you are no longer in love with them?

     “The wind whispers us all a message” Are you ready to listen?

Do not allow your fear of truth to cause you to pretend that your life is something it truly is not. How can people continue to pretend that they are happy? Is it because everyone is so afraid to look in the mirror? I heard some place that if you can look at yourself in the mirror for at least 10 seconds than you are doing pretty well. This does not mean brushing your teeth, putting on make up, or deciding whether or not to get Botox. This is looking straight into your own eyes. I can honestly tell you I can’t. I can for an about 5 seconds, and I get an overwhelming feeling of fear and anxiety. I could not even tell you why I get those feelings. I know that I could probably figure it out, but I don’t want to because I know that it will bring to surface all the things that bother me. It would be like opening Pandora’s Box, and I have not reached that point in my life that I am ready to explore just yet. It is okay to seek happiness, you would be stupid not to. But what I consider to be Insane are those that pretend they are happy because they are too afraid to admit they are not. Why are they afraid to admit that? Because they don’t want to admit that they made a mistake. They don’t want to admit that the life they chose was not the right one. They don’t want to face judgement from friend or faimily members. If that is the case, then those people have no business being in your life. Society says we have to uphold an image. Society requires us to at least appear that we are happy in order to survive in the world. I have a history of depression and extreme anxiety. My struggle to wear the mask of happiness. I wear my feelings on my sleeve, so for me to always be in a mask of “I am normal happy Jessi” is an exhausting job, The blessing about being this way, is a cannot fool myself into thinking I am happy. I can fool others into thinking I am happy because that is what I have to do for my job, my friends, and my family. Every now and then I can have a mental break down to someone close to me, but it takes me awhile to decide who to talk to because I have to choose someone who again appears to be emotionally stronger than me or someone who won’t judge me. So who is really insane?

     What society says is mental illness is insanity. Let me start by defining the word insanity. The word “insanity” is defined by The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language as “Insane as an adjective – 1, of, exhibiting, or afflicted with insanity 2. Characteristic of, used by, or for the insane. 3. Very foolish; rash; wild.

Insanity as a noun – A persistent mental disorder or derangement.

Let’s define derangement. “Severe mental disorder. 2. Disarrangement; confusion; disorder.

Okay so let’s break those words down. The words we see that describe derangement which goes back to describing insanity – we see confusion.

Isn’t everyone confused? Doesn’t society seem confused? How many times would you refer to your house or life in disorder? How many times does our society or the world seem in disorder or confusion? So is it fair to say life is insanity?

      Let’s see what the Thesaurus says about insanity.

Insanity’s synonyms include: Frenzy; Idiocy, Fanaticism

How many times do we use “Frenzy” as an adjective to describe Christmas shopping experiences or “Feeding Frenzy” or “Idiocy” – there is always the topic of “Are we become dumber?” Common Sense does seem to be a harder intelligence to come by in today’s society. And Fanaticism – Is that not what brought us Star Wars or Harry Potter. Doesn’t fanaticism come from imagination? With out imagination we would not have our technology breakthroughs, books, children’s stories, camping ghost stories, or movies. So is insanity really sometimes the better way to be. Could insanity actually be normal? And normal to be insane?

Insanity’s antonyms are: clearness, common sense. How many times have you met someone that did not have common sense whatsoever? But what led me to my theory of how to achieve happiness is in these words: Wisdom, and Understanding; which in turn, helps to prove that “The Truth will set you Free”! Normal to me, at first thought seemed to be insanity because there is no such thing as normal. If society determines what is normal, and we can all agree that society is full of Christmas Frenzies, shopping frenzies, disorder, confusion, horrors, and paranoia’s then do I really want to strive to be what society says is normal? So now I think the dictionary has it all wrong. Normal is insane. Because normal does not exist. So those claiming to be normal are those that buy into what society tells us is normal and in my opinion is insane, literally and ironically. The appearance of normal is just a mask. I wear this mask everyday. Maybe that is why I can’t look at myself in the mirror no longer than 5 seconds because what I see doesn’t match with how I feel or am inside. The phrase “Ignorance is Bliss” proves my point – choosing to ignore the truth keeps you from excepting the truths which causes you not to feel or experience the emotional pain the truth can give. The question is – How do you want to live your life? And what does it make you feel to know that you lie to yourself everyday just to avoid the pain. I value my existence and my life and my good and bad experiences because I can better know myself and the better I know myself the better I can make since to my existence.  If wisdom and understanding are the antonyms of insanity than why is it so hard for people to try and understand why the feel the way they do? Why do people not question why the world is the way that it is? Why do they try not to understand why they drink so much, or have affairs, or why they lost their job? Because that means that have to look in the mirror and be honest with themselves which meand they can no longer blame their lifestyle on anyone else and realize and decide to take responsibility for their own action, deal with the regret, forgive themselves because everyone makes mistakes, and move on without the weight of the choked back truth they stifle everyday. They have to man up to the fact that they did this to themselves and that is difficult because of our pride and our egos. For me to be happy, I have to be at peace with myself and my life choices. For me to achieve peace, I must come to terms and understanding of the situations that have brought me confusion and discomfort. And the only way for me to understand these situations is to seek out the truth – truth with those within the situation and with myself. I have to examine myself and question others in order to get those questions answered. It is a painful process but it is a process – meaning there is an outcome. For me the outcome is resolution. With resolution, peace is obtained. Peace brings happiness. Peace within yourself will bring happiness from within. The ONLY way to achieve true happiness is to be at peace with yourself and the world you live in. This beautiful prayer was written by a man named Reinhold Niebuhr in 1943.  The serenity prayer begins “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Notice the words courage – opposite of fear and wisdom – the opposite of fear. Serenity – Peace.

    Some choose to ignore what goes on within their soul. They ignore the fact that they are the one to blame for their troubled soul because they know they could do something about it, and they choose to not to face it because of their pride or fear. This causes their internal guilt which fuels their need to continue to pretend that they are happy. One thing that every human being wants is to be in the constant state of happiness and bliss. This is true and my proof I will explain so listen up. If you were to tell me “that is not true”, I will tell you I know lots of people who are unhappy and don’t care. Which I am glad you said that because it only proofs my theory even more.

     Finding happiness is the one thing all human beings have in common. We all fear pain. The only way we can escape pain is search for happiness. The problem that our society has is we seek happiness in things and ways that will never give us pure long-lasting happiness. Instead the things we seek only are capable to mask the pain. The things we seek treat our happiness by covering it with a band aid over a wound that needs stitches, a tourniquet for massive bleeding, or a make-shift sling for a broken arm. That is why we find cures in a bottle of alcohol and pills, needles, powders, TV, gambling, and shopping. This is where addiction comes from. Loveless marriages normally become addicted their children or work. You can be addicted to anything. Addiction does not have to be something that you do that is illegal. Addiction can be anything that you use to mask your pain. Whatever is your band aid is what you do or use to avoid the things that eat away at your soul. As soon as you stop for the day and you feel this emptiness inside like a hole you “Need” to fill that is your pain. It hurts and is so overwhelmingly uncomfortable your survival instinct kicks in and that is when you start cleaning your base boards, reorganizing your closet, grab a glass of wine, smoke a cigarette, take a pill, or turn on the TV. But the minute you stop cleaning or turn off the TV that emptiness comes back. One glass of wine, cigarette, or pill turns to two, three, four, etc.

Overwhelming “need” to fill the hole you feel inside you is your need to fix whatever pain you are feeling. Even when you go out and buy a bunch of new stuff – Let me ask you. Do you feel that emptiness once you try on all your new clothes, put up the groceries, and unpack all your new make-up and skin care? I know I do. It is so bad for me. While I am driving home, I am so excited about my new stuff that I want to open it up in the car, but I know that is going to shorten my shopping high. And just like getting drunk on alcohol or high on drugs comes guilt. Especially if you know you did not have the money to spend on those items. My shopping addiction has spurred into going grocery shopping because I feel no guilt because it is easier to rationalize. My guilt sets in when I the food goes to waste because I do not feel like cooking half the stuff I thought about making once I put it up. We think that these things will make us happy when in truth/reality it only fuels the pain and need to seek happiness even more. Because as the pain grows so does the need for happiness. We mask and mask and mask pain so much that we constantly need to seek happiness just to survive each day. This is only leading you down a dead-end road. My dad once told me that you can move half way around the world, thinking your life will be different and will find happiness. Things might feel great in the beginning. A new place, new friends, new job, but again once all that newness wears off just like the shopping sprees or the newness of a relationship. You will soon be confronted with your inner self. You cannot run from yourself. Happiness can only come from within and that is the hardest way to find it because it takes so much pain to get there. But think of it this way, wouldn’t you like to happy forever by enduring a little bit more pain for permanent happiness. We are already use to feeling pain, but we are always covering up. So why work so hard forever when you can work hard for a little while and then not have to work so hard like that until your next life changing moment. And then you will know how to find inner happiness again. And then we can all start that process instead of the masking and covering up tactic because now we know that it doesn’t work. To find happiness from within you have to start trying to look yourself in the mirror for at least 10 seconds. And when that urge to turn away comes, ask yourself what and why can I not look at yourself. When you feel that hole you are always trying to fill, stop and think of the thought you had right before your gut went numb. For me it is a memory of a man I am afraid that I will love forever and never have again, the people at work and my job, lack of money and bills, loneliness, the economy, and the loss of my father. I am in the process of finding peace and happiness within. And the things that helps when I feel that empty void of my life, and it is normally brought on by the reasons previously listed. I turn on music that mirrors the feelings I am feeling. For some people it might make it worse, but for me it makes me feel better because it reminds me that I am not alone with these feelings. And sometimes the lyrics will help you embrace the pain instead of run from it and accept your pain because the lyrics sometimes tell you the resolution. I also write. There is a reason why most great writers have always had a very troubled mental status, Ernest Hemmingway, Emily Dickinson, and Sylvia Plath. Along with many famous painters, for example: Vincent Van Gough and Jackson Pollack. Musicians; Kurt Cobain, Janice Joplin, Jim Morrison, Hank Williams Sr., Robert Johnson, Jimmie Hendrix, Bradley Knowel. Even comedians – the masters of transforming their pain into humor. They are so good that they turn their pain into humor. Comedy would not exist without pain. Where there is pain, there is always the possibility to find humor. No one laughs at something that didn’t come from a form of pain. Only pain can exist from something that was once positive.

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